Dealing with an irate spouse in a divorce is many people's worst nightmare. Whether or not their anger is justified, it might be nearly impossible to reach any sort of agreement with such a person. Additionally, you may not even feel safe when you're dealing with someone in such a state.
Handling an irate partner during a divorce can make the process take longer than it needs to. Additionally, the hostilities created will not be good for your kids if you have any. How can you deal with such a spouse when getting divorced?
Don't Respond with Anger
When all you face every time you deal with your spouse is anger and hostility, it's tempting to respond in a similar manner, especially in the heat of the moment. This is unlikely to be productive at the very least. However, there's also the risk that you'll do or say something that you'll regret in that situation. To avoid this, you have to make a conscious effort to respond with reason and hold back your anger. This doesn't mean being a push-over, it just means not letting your spouse push you over the edge.
Limit Any Direct Communication
Direct communication between you and an irate spouse is unlikely to be productive. Such a person may not be interested in your response. They may just want to let out their frustration. Rather than putting yourself through this, you can limit your communication and interaction with them. An impersonal method of communication such as through emails is better than phone calls.
Hire a Lawyer
If your spouse is constantly angry, negotiating with them can be incredibly difficult. You will likely find it difficult to agree on anything, and they may even turn down proposals that are favorable to them just to make the process harder for you. In this situation, you'll be better off if someone else is acting on your behalf. A divorce lawyer will represent you and safeguard your interests. They'll also ensure that you avoid the unpleasantness of dealing with your spouse.
Call the Police if Verbally or Physically Abused
Don't downplay a verbal or physical attack on you and don't make any excuses for an irate spouse. If you have been abused, threatened with abuse, or have any reason to fear for your safety, you should call the police. You should also avoid any negotiations when being subjected to any kind of abuse.