A Guide to an Amicable Divorce

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A Guide to an Amicable Divorce

When I got divorced, it went off without a hitch. When my friends heard how easy it was, they were shocked. None of the people they knew had experienced the same easy separation I had. It was not problems with their spouses that was the issue. It was the attorneys. After talking to a few more people and my divorce attorney, I created this blog. I want to help others who are going through the divorce process understand their options. I also want people to realize that there are good attorneys who are committed to getting what is best for their clients.


2 Things Every Struggling Couple Should Know About Divorce

If you are considering divorcing your spouse, you might be wondering what steps you should take to protect yourself. There are many things that you need to know about divorcing, and the more prepared you are, the more likely you are to have a faster and easier divorce. Here are some things you need to know about going through a divorce.

1. Be Realistic About Finances

One thing you have to ask yourself is if you can afford to get a divorce. Although many people feel like they need to get out of their current marriage, they need to wait until their finances are in order to get a divorce. For instance, you will need to pay for your own legal fees; do you have the money to be able to do that? Are you and your spouse in a lot of debt? The more debt you have, the more complicated it will make the divorce. For this reason, you should start putting money aside in a personal bank account to help pay for the divorce. Then you should do everything that you can to get out of debt. You may need to downsize your lifestyle or sell things, but having less debt will be worth it and will make your divorce easier.

2. Protect Your Safety and Interests

One of the first things you should think about is the safety of yourself—and your children, if applicable. If your spouse has had abusive problems in the past, you should let the lawyer know right away. They can help you to get a restraining order. Even if you can't afford to get the divorce right away, you can still legally separate and get a protective order against your spouse so that you feel safer.

Even if you don't fear for your safety, as you go through the negotiations, you need to be careful to protect your interests. Although you may be ready to just be finished with the divorce, you should fight on the things that are important. You can't simply relent everything to be done with it. Once something is in the divorce decree, it will be harder to change. For this reason, tell your attorney what things are most important to you and when you go through the negotiation process they can make sure that those things are received, although you may have to relent on other things.

By doing these things, you can better understand the divorce process. Contact a firm like Begley Carlin & Mandio LLP to learn more.